There is often time comes when You start feeling sad & upset with life and start thinking, I hate my life what should I Do? All the things start putting you down and nothing seems working out.
You start saying yourself intentionally or unintentionally- I hate my life.
First of all, Don’t panic, Everything is happen for good. Before screaming “I hate my life” Also, try to look at other side to find a brighter spot.
I Hate My Life What Should I Do?
Here! I ‘m telling you some actions to follow which can be done easily, when you become upset, frustrate or boredom with your life.
It will convert your perception from “I hate my life” to “I love my life”
Are You Living Own Life or Someone Else?
Did you ever ask yourself, Why I am not happy? Am I seriously unhappy or someone else is kicking me out by controlling me?
There is no secret. Most of the time you become unhappy only because of comparison. When you try to compare yourself with other people. Lack of confidence, Demotivating factor’s start arising.
You have opened a social media, you ‘ll find some post or videos. Where you are seeing someone else life who has uploaded a picture of his wonderful lifestyle who is sitting in new brand car and having fun.
You have seen a video of a person who is doing trip in another country.
After seeing such stuff’s, your mind ‘ll start doing comparison.
- He has a good car,
- His Life is awesome,
- He is having lot of fun
At other side, I ‘m the only one who is not having any kind of fun. My life is not good and so many distracting thoughts ‘ll start hitting your head.
Now, What’s the result? You ‘ll be distracted whole day by making yourself uncomfortable after the comparison.
Most of the post’s & video’s which you found on social media is half truth. You don’t know the unreveal secret behind it and why there is a comparison?
If anyone is having fun or having good life. That’s great.
Keep your focus only on yourself & your work. By the time, you too going to have all these awesome things in coming days. Keep doing your work with full dedication & honesty.
There are many wonderful things waiting for you in future. First you need to check, Am I really unhappy or it’s coming only by the comparison with other?
If there is such case. Kick it out instantly to remove distraction.
Kick Out Negative Filter:
Your sub-conscious mind always engage in talking with yourself and keep giving you suggestion’s & advices non- stop without any break.
Most of these advices turn out into negative feedback, Yes! It start putting you down by saying many negative stories which has come from past experience, co-relation or fear.
- You can’t do it, last time you also got failed.
- Don’t try to do, It’s hard.
- It will take much time, Look for shortcut
You receive such type of negative feedback from your inner voice. Why don’t you look at the brighter side?
Reply with your intellectual. Yes! That’s correct I got failed last time, that’s why I have gained much experience which is going to favour me and boost my performance.
Everything is hard until or unless you don’t start doing it. Once you engage & connect. It seems extremely easy & fun.
There is no shortcut for success.
You can reply to your mind in a positive way by looking at brighter side. People are lazy & often make excuses for not doing any kind work. Check yourself, Are you seriously making excuses or not?
You need to kick hard negative filter to achieve progress.
Know Yourself:
You always try to know the other people. Read biography of famous person. You keep checking out their news, Actor, Political leader etc
- What they are doing?
- What’s their upcoming plan?
- Birthday Party etc
So! Now Here is the question, when you are interested to know other people in a best possible manner. Did you ever try to know yourself?
- What’s your proper plan for the day?
- Do you have any goals for daily, weekly & monthly basis?
- Are you following discipline?
- How resilience is you?
Ask these questions, Try to know yourself better and develop a plan to grow your performance and achieve the results at faster rate.
Practice Mindfulness:
Mindfulness is one of the most important topics in which huge number of mass are interested. People often confused by this word- Mindfulness
It seems typical, No! There is nothing like confusion & critical. Mindfullness is a term which simply means To be present & aware at this moment. Past is gone which can’t be going to change when you keep thinking about it a day long.
Future is about to come which totally depends on your present actions, Whatever you sow in present, You ‘ll reap in future.
What’s the most important? Be aware in present and take better decision instead of getting worried about past or future.
Spend Time With Loved One’s:
What makes life beautiful? Is it money & career? No! It’s not, Money & career are important which is highly needed for your progress. But, it’s not the thing which can give you happiness for long term.
If money is not giving happiness then what?
Relationship & love make your life beautiful which gives you a long-term happiness. Everyone needs love in this world.
Whether you talk about humans or other creatures- Animals, Birds etc.
What is love?
Love is bonding, attachments & connection of feeling, emotions with each other. A love can be in any form.
- Parent’s Love
- Spouse
- Friends
- Relatives, Neighbour etc
When you are sad, You need to spend your time with your loved ones. Look at those people whom with you like to spend time.
- Any friend?
- Cousin,
- Sister or Brother
- Parents?
Whoever is the person. Spend time & accompany him to feel better. It’s a really required. When you are going with depression or sadness.
After spend time with your loved one’s, To be honest you will a lot better. Just try it out.
You are Brave & Powerful:
Don’t underestimate yourself, you have a potential and power to make changes in your circumstances. You are also brave enough to face challenges.
You are not nothing, you are something who is better than millions of people on the earth. Use that power to improve & grow yourself.
Proper Sleep:
Deficiency of sleep is one of the most common reason which makes you frustrated, Lack of confidence & irate.
If you are not having proper sleep. You are required to change sleeping pattern on a high note. How can you be able to go smoothly in life without sleep?
Every creature on earth require a proper sleep. Without it, You ‘ll always feel fatigue, tired & sluggish through out the day. There is an old saying. You must have heard about it.
“Early to Sleep, Early to rise, Makes a person- Healthy, Wealthy & Wise“.
That’s 100% correct. When you sleep early, It’s for definite you are going to wake up at early. The early morning is the best time for productivity.
That’s the time where focus level is at the top of the peak.
If it’s possible for you to make sleep pattern in a similar form. Then do it without any second thought. You ‘ll get the ultimate result.
When it’s bit difficult for you to follow this sleeping pattern for some reason, Like- Night shift or working till late night. What you can do at that moment?
Maintain proper sleep accordingly. You need to understand, Proper sleep is highly required to live life in a normal way, to become happy & boost your performance.
Eat Healthy Food:
Healthy food is also important part in your life. Consumption of healthy food leads to high energy and improve concentration power.
You should be aware, what type of food you are consuming on a regular basis. In this age, There is mass who is highly addicted & attractive towards junk foods.
Are you one of them?
Junk food make a person sluggish & often results in low energy & creates lack of focus. You have to avoid strictly. Say! NO to junk foods.
Sometimes! That’s okay, on a monthly or weekly basis. But, on a regular basis it’s not a good habit to adapt. Change your junk food to healthy diet.
You can add fruits, vegetables in your lifestyle.
Which is the best food to eat? It’s home-made food. It’s most healthy and great to consume home-made food on a regular period.
Move Your Body, Kick Out Worry and Build Your Personality:
Do you try to move your body out of the room to feel fresh? or You just put yourself locked in the room with the sea of thoughts, worries, regret and fear.
Why don’t you try to come out from your room and see this beautiful world and enjoy the life? Sometimes, you get unhappy because of certain boring routine.
Engage yourself in exercise and connect with other people outside. It ‘ll give a positive impact. Exercise itself has many benefits.
- It’s keep your body fit.
- You feel better when you come & meet other people.
In starting, It will seems hard to do. But, Once you understood it’s positive influence. You ‘ll surely love and going to take final decision to say Yes.
Build Up Your Thought Process and Gain Clarity:
Your daily decision & actions are the result of your thoughst only. When you have strong thought process There is no doubt you will take strong decision and better actions.
On the other side, If you have weak thought process. What does it result? Yes! Definitely result would be end up with bad decision and weak actions.
So, How can you make your thought process strong?
Yes! There is a way. First, you need to understand, How your thought process gets build up?
It’s totally results of your past experiences, environment, friend circle and other people whom with you connect.
Despite it, Now a days, Social Media also contribute towards building up your thought process.
The kind of information’s you consume from these resources get stored in the mind and your thought process also act accordingly.
If all the information you are consuming are negatives. Unfortunately, it’s for sure you are building a negative thought process which is not going to grow you in any manner.
To make a strong thought process, You need to do following things.
Read Books:
Books are one of the best ways to change your perspective & gain knowledge, Books plays an important role in building up your mindset strong.
What do you think about books? Is it 100,150,200 or 250 pages a simple book? No! It’s not.
When you are reading a book.
It’s not about pages, In a true send you are reading a person 15-20 years life. You can learn a lot from those experiences. You can implement some good advices in your life which is being told by author.
Reading a book means, I ‘m not saying to pick up any books. Like- love stories, Jokes or Political books and start scrolling the pages.
I am saying to read personality development, Inspirational books. It will surely valuable to read. You ‘ll not able to understand at this moment nor it ‘d seems something special, Until or unless you go for it.
Once you grab the book & start reading it. You ‘ll see the difference.
Be Aware While Grabbing the Information:
You need to be precise when going with the flow of information. Is it coming from authentic sources or just like a random way?
There are lots of misleading news and information keep flowing on the internet & in real life. It’s not a right way to follow up such piece of information.
Stay away from these kind of information otherwise It will end up with negativity, loss of time.
It’s your duty to check, Information, source & authenticity of the information.
Pick A New Skill and Master It:
Let’s build a new skill to grow your personality. What kind of skill? I ‘m not going to answer it, Because you are the only one who knows best about yourself.
- What are your interests & hobbies?
- What do you want to improve?
It can be anything:-
- Communication Skill,
- Writing,
- Art,
- Business related or
- anything else.
Whatever sounds you best?. Pick that skill and try to master. It will be going to add another value in your personality.
Respect Your Emotions, Love Yourself:
Always love yourself and your emotions. Sometimes, You put yourself into the work and give no time for yourself from a busy hectic schedule which always result in the war between you and your emotions.
Give little bit time to yourself. Make yourself happy. If you are wishing to go somewhere outside for hangout, meeting with friends or something else.
But, You are not allowing yourself for the reason of hectic schedule and busy. Don’t put over burden. If you can do & manage, Go for it
Love yourself, This is the only way to get best results. There are some more thing to do beside it
Cut Out Useless People:
This is also important. There would be definitely some people in your list who always try to spread negativity and demotivate you in many senses.
Now, You strictly need to check for those people, If you have goal & vision to achieve and these people are not supporting you rather, They are demotivating & humiliating you.
The negativity & statements they are throwing at your head is not helping you to go smoothly for your vision rather It’s creating hindrance, sluggish environment and discouraging you.
You need to cut off these people from the list. Yes! It may sound rude. But, This is important thing to do.
Okay! Ask yourself, If someone is making you unhappy & adding no value. Would you like to spend your precious moment with that person?
You know the better answer.
Learn To Say No and Stop Doing Thing Which You Don’t Like:
There could be many things which you are doing. But, You don’t like to do. However, you are still doing because of addiction for it or any other reason.
- You are surfing on internet for long hours.
- You are watching Youtube video’s whole day.
- Gossiping with Friends on useless topics
- Political debate & arguments Or anything else.
These are some common example, Your may be different. But, Try to connect it. The real motive is to make you understand. Stop doing those things which you don’t like and add no value.
Do you seriously like above mentioned reason? Or It’s coming out itself because of the addiction. Learn to say NO & save your precious time which you can put in useful work.
Time is the most important thing in life. Use it wisely.
Switch Off Social Media, Stop Doing Comparison:
Social Media also plays and important role in today’s generation to create unhappiness & sadness in your life.
Don’t get me wrong, I ‘m not saying Social Media is worst or bad. Definitely, It’s an good way to connect with people all over the world.
If you look at positive side, Social media also helps to be in touch with friends & other people in your contact list.
What I mean to say?
Sometimes, You see a picture of a person. It may be Your friend or anyone else with a brand expensive car showing his wonderful life.
Now! At that moment, You start doing comparison.
He is living awesome life and I don’t have anything neither a secure job nor money. When You start thinking this way. Your mind also starts giving you countless number of negative feedbacks to check. Like-
- Yes! You are right, You ‘re not good in any way.
- You have faced many failures in the past.
- Those person are lucky and you are an unfortunate etc.
The story is not finish yet. It ‘ll break your mood, make you distracted and ends up with frustration. This was the only reason;
I was saying you to stop use of social media. Don’t compare yourself with anyone. You are the one of the best person in the word. Look at your positive side. Your strength, attitude, Opportunities.
Work on your goal and don’t allow anyone to distract yourself. Why are you breaking own peace with just one picture which is arising lots of negative feedback in your mind.
You don’t know the real secret behind those pictures. There is always a trap or half- truth.
Make Positive Changes:
Habit plays an important role in overall growth. Whether it’s personal or professional. Don’t over look even at tiny habits. Try to adopt some good habits.
No need to take many good habits in a one shot. Go slow, one by one. You are the result of your habits.
Whatever you have done in the past. That has made your present. Now what you are going to do. It ‘ll make your future.
If you adopt good habits, It ‘ll be awesome to move forward with it.
Express Gratitude:
Being gratitude & be thank full to other’s is a great thing. It shows not only your character rather it also gives you peace and inner happiness.
Did you practice gratitude ever before? If not, You need to give it a try. The best thing is Gratitude does not cost anything to you. It also has a power to build valuable relationships which can last forever.
When You are thankful to other’s. It is going to help you in building emotional bonding with them which could be great.
Look For Other’s:
You always think about yourself. You are too busy in own world. Let’s come out from it and meet some lovely people.
There are mass number of people who are living poor life. Who are struggling only for food, clothes and shelter.
You can help those people by providing them food, Old or new clothes. It will truly give you a real happiness.
If you are sad & frustrate with your life for small reason’s. Go & meet those people and see their pain. You should be thankful to ALMIGHTY for this wonderful life.
Still, You are complaining for just tiny reason. Connect with those people and see the value of your own life & happiness. You ‘ll realize How beautiful your life is?
Nothing Good Or Bad, It Depends On Your Thinking:
What do you think? What is bad & what is good? There is nothing good and bad. It’s totally depend on your perception.
How do you take it? Always try to look at positive side. If something is not happening as per your wish. That good be for some reason.
You have to find it. Don’t get negative, always try to be positive. Everything happens for a reason
Write Down Everything:
You have messed up with life. Not seeing anything cheerful. There are lots of To do list which is making you confused. Okay! Do a simple exercise. Write down all your problems on a paper.
Also, write down your desires. Now! It’s time to make a plan to achieve those desires & kick out negative stuffs from the list.
You ‘ll find, How easy it is to overcome confusion. Once you have written everything on paper. Try it & see the positive aspect.
Be Organized:
You should be neat, clean & organized. Sometimes your daily routine becomes sluggish only because there is not proper organize & system for work.
Let’s say, You are doing a job in the company. You were having a plan for something after your work day,
Once you come back at home. What happens next?
When you are back, You have seen, The rooms is dirty, all the things are lying here & there. You start feeling complex & tired after seeing this picture of room.
Now, You are finding too difficult to set up all these and start working about your plan. So, You have cancel the plan because it is the only thing which you easiest at the moment.
So, why does it happen? It’s because of unorganized. If you keep yourself organize and maintain discipline. Everything ‘ll seems easier to do. Similarly, You can co-relates organize with your daily routine.
When you have proper routine. You are well known about the day. What do in morning, evening & night. If you are not aware, It will cause you trouble and end up with loss of time & energy in unproductive junk.
Life Is Mystery:
In the past, some years back, You were not having any idea & expectation. what’s happening at the present.
Similarly, You don’t have any idea about the future. What is going to happen? Don’t worry for it. Be focused and keep putting efforts & go by the flow of life. Enjoy all the moments.
Life is too short to get worried & sad. Enjoy every moment of your life.
Change Your Words:
Do you want to know, where is the secret to unlock all the opportunities & power?
It lies in your words. Sounds crazy?
No! seriously, The Power is in your words. What kind of words do you speak internally & externally. Mind start behaving in the same way.
When you say negative words:
- I hate my life
- I ‘m not good.
- Everyone is more smart
- I ‘m idiot.
- I don’t want to live any more, I hate my life
These are dangerous words. Don’t ever try to say such words. It ‘ll impact your mind badly and not going to take any positive action.
Don’t you want to get support of your mind? Obviously! You definitely want. So, stop using these words.
You need to understand this power of positive words and use it to see the full potential. Start using positive affirmations.
- I can achieve everything
- All is well
- I have a power
- I am the best
- Nothing is difficult for me
Use such kind of affirmation to get positive kick from inside.
Explore Your Passion:
Are you fade up with you daily activities & routine? Does it seems hard to do same boring work daily? Is this the only reason which is causing you to accept- I hate my life.
Don’t worry! Take it easy, There is always a solution for the problem. Start looking for your passion.
Ask yourself-
- What do you really want?
- What’s your passion?
- What are your interests?
Once you find your passions & interests. You can connect yourself with it & You can do side by side with your main work.
Develop a Plan:
Every time, The things do not work in the same manner as you wish, Yes! Nothing is difficult, If you want to achieve it. But, that doesn’t mean, you can do anything and everything without any proper planning.
You should have a proper plan for everything. Whether It’s a small task or big task. This is one of major mistake, You take most of the things lightly and do not value.
This is the reason, why your most of the times get spoil. What I want to make you understand is? You are doing a work which can hardly takes 15-20 minutes.
Okay! That’s perfect. Do it with the focus and try to complete it within same period 15-20 mins. Now, Don’t mix up at another area until or unless work is not get over.
Like- Start looking at your smartphone- Facebook, twitter, Instagram Or send a message to your friend on WhatsApp by thinking It’s a small task, I ‘ll do it easily.
This was the easy task, Now since you have engage in social media or with friends doing chatting. You are end up there after 1 hour.
Now you have come back & start doing the same work. which took 20 minutes to get over. Now, Figure is something like-
60+20= 80 minutes
The work which needs to be finished within 20 minutes has taken 80 mins. This was just one example. Check your daily schedule. You ‘ll find large no. of such examples.
This also results in making you panic at the last moment. First, You don’t give attention & respect towards valuable time. Later on, You get panic and start saying,
- I don’t have time
- I was busy
No! That’s not correct, Everyone has 24 hours only.
You have lack of time because you don’t work according to the plan Or you don’t have any plan. That’s why, It is important to have a plan before doing anything to get better results.
Why Don’t You Choose Happiness?
Money is an important part of life. But, This is also a reality, Money alone can’t make you happy. When you keep running behind the money all the times & stop living & enjoy your moment’s in other area’s.
Life hit you hard. This is the reason where you start saying, I hate my life.
If you want truly happy life. You also need to consider other parts of life.
- Money
- Love
- Relationship
- Adventure
Make beautiful connections, Spread love with other’s, Respect your relationship, Adventure is also good. Yes! Doing adventure also differs from person to person.
Maybe you like it or not?
I just love it while going for the trip. It makes me happy. You can also do adventure, if you like, It’s definitely worth to check it out.
I Hate My Life:
I hope you must have find a good reason to stop hating your life & start loving it back, If you are upset. Change your situation “I hate my life” by implement these points in your life to make positive changes.
Learn the way, How To Live Happy Life & Don’t Say, I hate my life.
Please share with everyone, what you do when you become sad & What makes you happy?